What you cannot see
I frequently look at Hoover Reservoir and ponder the life in that body of water that goes on unseen. There is so much that is literally below the surface – the fish, the insects, snakes, turtles, catfish. We see intimations of life – a fish breaks the surface or birds dip down to feed but much remains hidden. What I ponder is that there is more here than meets the eye.
I have experienced this same understanding in my cancer journey. So much is hidden and unseen. Right from the beginning there was this enormous surprise that cancer existed within my seemingly healthy body. A deadly disease lived within my body, thrived within my body.
Ovarian cancer is hard and slow to detect and usually the CA-125 test is helpful. The increased numbers reveal the presence of tumors. It does not tell you how long they have been there and the extent of the damage. That part is unknown.
I received chemo treatments and efficacy of that procedure was shown in the numbers going down. So, my numbers shrunk over six months from 535 to 350 to 200 and then I had surgery.What I learned from my first surgery was that that this is one time the surgeon does not know exactly what they will find. My doctor was surprised, I imagine, to find the cancer extensive and involved more than my reproductive organs . The planned six hour surgery was shortened to an hour as the decision was made to postpone the hysterectomy and continue with chemo in the hopes that it would shrink the tumors
After four more chemo infusions, I approached the second surgery with trepidation. I did not know whether I would require a ileostomy or just the hysterectomy. What I learned is that the cancer was still in the colon but it was basically inoperable. After the hysterectomy I am now on “maintenance chemo “ in the hope that the tumors that remain will be inactive or would shrink. There is – as usual – much that is unknown. I see an outer abdominal scar which is healing, but I cannot know what is going on inside.
There is another aspect of my life I cannot see. I have been the recipient of an outpouring of love from friends and family. Because I have served several churches I am blessed by literally hundreds of people who have crossed my path over the past seventy five years. People write and text and assure me that they pray for my healing . One example is Sara, a young woman I mentor who tells me that she and her daughter pray for me every night. I am sure she does.
I ponder what happens when we pray. Is something more happening because of the love and healing desires that are expressed? How does it affect my healing and the tumors that plague me. My faith has always been that God is real and God is at work bringing hope, healing, love and peace to this world. How does that translate to the disease within me.
I would tell anyone that we have been the recipients of miracles since this journey began. From the gift of a caring doctor , to my ability to live with chemo, to the miracle of John’s recovery from his brain bleed, we have been blessed. These have been God sightings or signs to me. To me, these are intimations of God’s presence, leading, and healing activity. I am grateful.
I find hope in the belief in the activity of the unseen God. Under the surface of my ordinary life, there is something more happening with a disease that I cannot control that lives within me. There is something more happening that makes this cancer – not my adversary – but my companion. At the very least, I trust that God will strengthen me to live well with cancer - facing both the medical facts and limitations and the spiritual truths and mystery.
People ask me how I am. I am fine, I am scared, I am Hopeful, I am faithful. And I ponder what is going on under the surface. I reflect on the mystery of suffering and healing and trust that there is more here than meets the eye.
Somehow it seems appropriate to end with this quote from Paul
For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13: 12, 13