Cemetary Musings
I spent
pleasant afternoons this week strolling through a large cemetary in Fremont.
Ohio, seeing loss and love displayed
Pondering the
gravestones that were so old that I
could not read the name or the year
Some had no name – only the word FATHER or MOTHER
was clear.
Some stones
had been damaged by time and weather and
were crumbling off their footings. I
wondered if “their people” had died or moved away or were just unable or uninterested
in repairing the damage
Graves that
were newer may have a name and only the
date of birth - attesting to the preparedness of the person who is yet to die. There were many double stones where one
partner’s life was over and the other was waiting to join them.
One section
by the road held several older graves of
very young children. They have angel
decorations and often noted the number of days that they had lived. I can only imagine the heartbreak of a stll
birth or perhaps birth defects.
The recent
graves often have pictures and details about the life that has been lived Children and pets names are listed on the
back of the stone and maybe a tractor, a typewriter, a race car, a fishing rod,
a college on the front. The years in military service are often listed as are
the dates of marriage. One stone pictured
the wedding rings and “17, 955 days.” (I
did the math – 49.1 years)
I take a
picture of the gravestone of a young boy’s grave with a half dozen pictures of him from toddler
to teen. There is a quote from Dickens: “Don’t
cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
I see a
plate with a line from Sarah McLaughlin ‘s song “In the arms of the
angel.” And I find myself humming that
song as I walk among these who are remembered.
It is all
life affirming for me as I realize that I have already lived longer than so
many who are resting here. And that
Chuck lived longer than most.
I have peace
with my decision to not put Chuck’s ashes in the ground. Instead I wear them in
a heart on a chain and he goes everywhere with me.
But as I
walk through this holy space I picture the stone that could be his:
I would
include a caricature of him running that
he had on his stationary that captures his spirit of adventure.
His name –
Charles Truex and also: “Chuck” “Walleye Willie”
The years –
February 7, 1936-December 24, 2018
And like the
plaque that Audrey put in the bench in the back yard it would say:
“We miss you
every day,”
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