There is a spiritual practice called Rummaging for God: Praying backwards through the day. It is an "examen" of the events and feelings of the day and allowing ourselves to reflect on God's presence and activity.
I came home from my week in Phoenix to find a microphone on the coffee table in the family room. Audrey had purchased it with the idea of doing a podcast. So I said we should do a weekly one called "Weekly Rummaging." It would be a look back and reflection on the previous week with these categories:
- what we had read
- what we had seen (TV. movies. etc)
- what we had done
- what we had learned
- and end with a quote.
Who knows if we will do this? She is buying a new computer and
will learn how to do it. I am tasked with writing our theme song. ?!?!?! And
last night I spent about a half hour at the piano. What a crazy idea
all of it is. I told her that we should do it as we do our blogs -
writing for ourselves. Talking for ourselves. And see what happens -
if there is any value in it.
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But I thought this morning I would use that format for these morning pages.
What I read - I finished Becoming by
Michelle Obama. And interestingly enough I sat in the plane going home
beside a woman who was reading it too. What struck me the most about
Michelle was her discipline and her sense of intention. . She was
really disciplined in her physical fitness and her eating. Her
intention was to take care of her family and to be supportive of her
husband during the election. She really thought long and hard about
what was good for her daughters. And then when she was first lady, she
was so intentional about the ways that she used her influence. It was
just impressive and a model for me.
What I saw - I saw "Cold War", "Widows" and the documentary about Lorena Bobbett last week with Susan. . When I came home I caught up with "Grey's
Anatomy" - two episodes and then watched a third last night. There is
something comforting in Greys and I like that there is always a
theme to every episode. There was a point where I found myself crying -
(again) - because it was touching my pain of not having Chuck. And on
reflection, I think I like the resilience of the characters -
particularly Meredith. She is a widow and is finally after years is
moving on. And also they gather at a hospital in some very sad
situations and still find joy in life. I know it is a cheesy show, but
comfort for me.
What I did. I have had dinner out with
kacey and family and spent time with Marnie and of course, Audrey. All
of that makes me happy to be home. It is clear that they want me
home. Audrey and I are definitely going to OBX in July where we will
figure out the ashes for Chuck. What I also did was spiritual direction
for Sara. And that is so helpful for getting me out of myself in into
someone else's story. I need more of it.
What I
learned. Again. Grief is a spiral staircase. I come home with a sense
of a restart and find myself also still crying every day. And thinking
of Michelle Obama and her discipline and Meredith Grey and her
resilience and trying to just take the next step. After I finish
writing this I will get to the ordination sermon for tomorrow. That has got to be
finished and hopefully there will be life in the process. I will keep
going as I must. And trust that slowly but surely God is healing me.
Removing this veil of grief. Or "thinning it?"
A quote from the week:
"It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are." e. e. cummings
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